You built the life they told you to want.
“I did what I was told would lead to success, so why do I feel like I’m a shell of myself now?”
Of course you followed the path that everyone else told you would lead you to happily ever after. Many of us followed that same path.
You got the title, made the money and here you are, doing the math and realizing none of it adds up the way you dreamed of.
This isn’t failure, sis. You've just been winning at someone else's game.
And you don't want more of THAT.
You want yourself back.
YOU’RE NOT INTO PLAYING THEIR GAME ANY MORE
You've spent decades putting everyone else in front of yourself, and somewhere along the way you stopped even noticing you were doing it. It just became who you were. You hold it together for everyone else. You can be counted on to handle it all.
And that worked, until it didn’t.
The women I work with aren't weak. They're strong as hell. But strong doesn't mean you're okay, and you and I both know that. You don’t need more strength.
You need permission to stop carrying everyone else and start showing up for yourself for once.
And that’s what we do together.
The time is here
When the kids are older. When work slows down. When things settle. When you finally feel ready.
But here's what you already know — you might be waiting forever. And the longer you wait for permission to put yourself first, the more distant you’ll become.
You don't need more time. You don't need things to settle.
You need to decide that you're done waiting.
That decision starts here.
You’ve been waiting for the right moment
Have We Met?
Hi, I’m
Renée DeVore
I know what it's like to live a life for everyone else but yourself.
For a long time I felt lost and incredibly unclear on what would come next if it didn't have the security of what I'd known for decades. From a distance, my life looked pretty damn good. High-level leader, six-figure salary, nice car, beautiful clothes, extensive travel. And most nights I was drinking to keep the edge at bay, spending money to fill a void, and watching reality TV to avoid getting real about my own life.
I was buried in worthiness wounds, and it kept me stuck for far too long. Ten years too long, to be exact.
I kept hoping things would get better — leaving jobs, starting over, even moving to escape the tension of a life that didn't fit anymore. I kept looking outward for something or someone to save me, until I finally realized nobody was coming. I had to do it myself.
At 48, I walked away from a 25-year career. At 49, I got married for the first time. At 50, I started this business. The ages aren't the point — the point is that none of it would have happened if I hadn't done the hard work first: sitting with myself, getting honest about what I wanted, and deciding that what I was living wasn't it.
Now this is the work I guide other women through.
I'm a certified life and leadership coach, though I think of myself more as a mentor — because I'm not just bringing methodology to the table. I've walked the exact road you're standing at the beginning of.
You've been playing by someone else's rules for too long. It's time to write your own, sister.
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YOU KNOW HER.
YOU MIGHT EVEN BE HER.
Doing everything for everyone else because that's just ‘who you are’, but you know it’s taking a toll on your mental health and physical well being.
Snapping at the people you love most and being ashamed of it because they’re the only place where that hidden energy feels real and leaks out
Waiting for your circumstances to change and life to settle down, but you also realize that may never happen and you’re just living more and more in isolation
Frustrated with everyone around you for not seeing what you need, but you’re beginning to realize this is as much about them as it is about you.
Keeping yourself busy because when things get quiet, it gives you time to think about everything that’s not working. And that feels overwhelming and scary.
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